What We Really Need

What is it with need in our society?

We need a bigger house.

We need a newer vehicle.

We need a vacation.

We need more money so we can donate.

We need a frappa-grande-caramel-mocha-latte.

We need more cell phone minutes.

We need paint on our walls, curtains on our windows, flowers on our front porch.

What if, instead…

We had less stuff to clutter our home.

We took better care of our functional vehicle.

We pitched a tent in the backyard and cooked up some smores.

We were more generous with what we already have.

We drank more water for the health of our body and our wallet.

We talked and texted less on the phone and valued the people in front of us.

We washed our walls and enjoyed the simplicity of our surroundings.

What do we really need? Maybe it’s not all about working more hours and clipping more coupons so we can get what we want.

Perhaps what we really need is a little more simplicity and a lot more self-discipline. We need more appreciation for what we have and fewer sales on what we want.  We need more forts and castles in our homes and fewer pricey vacations to visit forts and castles.

Maybe, just maybe… the best way to save money is to treasure what we already have.

What are your needs today?

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  1. Bravo! I get alot of strange looks because we have driven the same car for 10 years, live a loarge family in a small home and we are very frugal in our other choices. I agree we need to need less and work harder to care for the people and things we already have.

  2. You are so right. We all need to look at the things we need versus what we want. I want to be happy with what we already have, too. Also, I just wrote about self-discipline yesterday with regards to housekeeping.

  3. Amen!!
    Thanks for the reminder. My heart knows this is true, but my head doesn’t always agree and needs a reminder sometimes to keep me on track.

  4. Amen! Such an excellent reminder.

    My husband has been unemployed for a couple months (though he finally got a job a couple weeks ago), and this particularly lean time has helped us to more appreciate the things we do have (a roof over our heads, healthy food on the table, a functioning and safe vehicle, among so many other things), and much more importantly the wonderful people God has blessed us with. 🙂

  5. Yes you are so right.. BUT on one note with your list.. I DO NEED TO PAINT MY WALLS.. We pulled down our paneling in our house back before Thanksgiving.. and well we know now why the prior owners panelled the walls.. All I can figure is that they had a dog that got muddy alot and used to drag him/herself up the stairs and I have a very large 4 ft stain up the stairs.. the wall paper under the panelling is from the 1960’s and is in very bad shape.. need a clean coating of clean paint.. Paint is cheap.. so I can live with myself on that..
    The Panelling came down cause it was cracked and broken and a mess.

    But yes.. we live in a society of bigger is better, and that is not always right.

    sue in NJ

    • If you saw my bathroom walls right now, with the huge chunks of old wallpaper torn off by my lovely children, you’d say “Amy — go get yourself some paint!” 😉

  6. Thanks, Amy. 🙂

  7. So true! I have a post drafted about taking care of what we already own so we don’t have to keep buying more and more. Of course, I need the reminder often…so thank you!

  8. Johanna says:

    Very well said~thank you!

  9. So timely. I ran into town today and went to the warehouse club and a couple of other box stores (we need a vacuum), that is a need for a neat freak like me, but anyway, I also went to 2 “used” stores and it always strikes me that at some point, someone bought all those still usable clothes, household items, etc. brand new and now they are out of fashion or there is no room or for whatever reason, they are discarded. It is funny how the stuff seems so necessary at one point and then when it leaves the house in trash bags it just seems so worthless and we just want to be done with it. The temporary happiness of purchasing is months later replaced with the joy of decluttering. I am TRYING to break the cycle. I think it is a lot more honoring to the Lord to be a good steward in the first place rather than attempting to right the wrong of hoarding and overspending later. Progress, not perfection, but I am working on it.

    • Definitely. Wonder how our society would be different without the need for STUFF. My guess is that many more mamas would get to stay home with their families and dads wouldn’t be working 80 hour weeks in pursuit of the things we think we need. Just a guess. 😉

  10. Amen, sister.
    I completely agree with you!
    I am so often frustrated and even paralyzed by the amount of STUFF surrounding us in our home. I’m struggling to downsize and simplify. We’re doing it one donation load at a time.

  11. kathleen says:

    Thank you! Our frig just died on us. It was alittle small for my family and was old. So when we went to buy a new one of course are first thought was gives us the biggest fanciest model. Well we really don’t have the money and we only needed alittle bigger. Luckily what we truly needed won out. And I absolutely love it! I’m so glad we picked the right one.

  12. I am all for simple:-)

  13. We live in a me society and it is all about keeping up with the Joneses. 🙁 When we should be focused on God and how we can serve Him. Things will deteriorate, and fade with time. We need to preserve our relationships with others.

  14. Our needs are to focus on Him, and everything else will fall into place. A huge house and a lot of money aren’t bad, but the love of it is. Focus is the key…

    Matthew 6:32-34 (English Standard Version)

    For the Gentiles seek after all these things, and your heavenly Father knows that you need them all. But seek first the kingdom of God and his righteousness, and all these things will be added to you.

    Therefore do not be anxious about tomorrow, for tomorrow will be anxious for itself. Sufficient for the day is its own trouble.

  15. True, true, true. I think most of us ‘need’ to understand the difference between what’s desired and what’s required. If you realize you don’t really need that mocha-frappe-whatsit (you could lose weight just saying all that), after a while you don’t even miss it. And once you realize how many ‘needs’ are truly just ‘wants,’ then you spend so much less on real needs that you have money to play with. There’s a reason I just bought myself a hot-shot sewing machine ($200 at Wally World but still more than I’d normally be able to afford)–I didn’t spend that money on silly, pseudo ‘needs’!

  16. So true! So very very true! You are so right. It wasn’t that long ago, and still is true in many places, that to have “enough” is happiness, security, and prosperiety. We as a society have lost that. And, I think that discovering what we have and are is enough makes life simpler, happier, and all around more fulfilling because we can focus on the things that really do matter.

    • My mom said growing up was easier for her because everyone had the same things… which amounted to very little compared to now. And they were all HAPPY!

  17. I competely agree…thank for stating this so well. This is going up on my fridge.

  18. Theresa says:

    Wonderful post!! I am dealing with a 12 year old daughter who has a new “need” every other day. I am trying to teach them that we “need ” for very little. There was a line in a novel I read once that I have never forgotten. It said “once your needs are met, everything else is oneupmanship.” I don’t think I have ever read a truer statement.

    Great post!

    • So hard with children, especially at that age! When my 7yo sees commercials for stuff, she’ll say “Mom, they just want us to spend our money.” Cracks me up.

  19. Here, here. My favorite drink is water and I only rarely use my Go Phone (no plan — Yeah!). We are moving to a smaller place for financial reasons, but I am looking forward to having less to clean!


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