To my grandparents on their 65th wedding anniversary.

You know that anniversary dance they do at weddings?  The one where all married couples pack the dance floor two by two, then they’re asked to sit depending on how many years they’ve been married.  “If you’ve been married five years or less, you may have a seat.  Ten years.  Twenty.  Twenty five.”  And so on.

Our family always wins that dance.  No, it’s not a competition, but to watch my very own grandparents arm in arm, waltzing together as easily as they breathe… that’s a win. 

Grandma.  Grandpa.  You have no idea the impact your sixty-five years together have made to our family and your community.  The example.  The legacy.  The life you’ve given us.  The gift.  Your marriage is a gift!  It’s the epitome of God’s design

for better or for worse, for richer or for poorer, in sickness and in health, until death do us part. 

The marriage vows that we all proclaim?  That is you.  You’ve been there, you’ve lived that, and you are living it.  This life is hard, as you know firsthand.  You’ve already buried two grandsons and a daughter-in-law with quiet strength and firm faith.  Commitment.  Resolve.   That’s what we see when we look toward you.  Well, that and a whole lotta fun!

You can’t tell any of us grandkids that the farm is any less special than Disney World itself.  Growing up, there was no place we’d rather be than running up and down the cellar door, playing tag over the top of the round bales, and sneezing our heads off in the hay shed.  The magic of the “dorm room” upstairs and bouncing our way down the steps.  Waking up with sleepy eyes at 7am and having grandpa laugh at us because “The day’s half over!”  Licking push-up sherbet pops before the flies and the heat got them first.

You wouldn’t say anything (well, grandma wouldn’t; she’s the quiet, graceful one) but I know you notice the world.  The instant gratification.  The entitlement.  Buy now, pay later.  If you don’t like it, get out of it.  We know better.  We’ve learned better and will live better because of you.   

Ten children.  Thirty-four grandchildren.  Thirty-seven(?) great grandchildren and counting… rapidly.  Your marriage legacy lives in us.  Happy 65th Anniversary!   

“To the world you may be one person, but to one person you may be the world.”



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  1. How beautiful!
    My own grandparents will be celebrating their 65 years of marriage this June, so while there’s no farm and this is rural England, these sentiments are perfect.

  2. Thank you for this post. My grandfather died just after my grandparent’s 48th anniversary. My grandmother lived on for more than 20 years after his death. When Grandma was at the jumping off place herself, she spent a few days in delirium before she left us. During those last days, her feet were more in that other world than this one and she spent much of her time speaking with my grandpa. It was touching to see how strong and enduring their love was, and how strong her belief that they would be reunited. It was a lesson and a blessing to us all.

  3. You know how the Sunday around Valentine’s day is world marriage day? (at least it is in our diocese… the priest usually has all married couples stand up and renew their vows, and at our parish, we have a little brunch afterwards.) I used to call my grandma every year and thank her for getting married. Wow, I miss her.

    Love this post! Now you’ll have to excuse me, there’s something in my eye… :>)

    • Awww. My mom and dad have been “escorting” my grandparents to the Marriage Mass (or whatever it’s called) for several years now. 😉

  4. That saying at the end – it’s one of my very favorites. Love the entire post, and wish I had grandparents like yours, but that saying – awesome.

  5. Debbie Jennings says:

    Happy 65th Anniversary Grandma and Grandpa! What an inspiration you are to me and to so many others! Congratulations on a job well done!

  6. Amy, your message was so beautifully written and as the “oldest” daughter of this marriage of 65 years, I am truly grateful to you for expressing in words what is in the hearts of our whole family!

  7. Amy, that was beautiful! That is truly how we all feel! We are so lucky!!!!

  8. Beautifully written. My grandparents (both sets) are nearing this number too. Our community is a testament that marriages can last and should! I often think that if divorice just isn’t an option, you sure make sure that you work on it :). My favorite line though? This:

    “You can’t tell any of us grandkids that the farm is any less special than Disney World itself.”

    Amen, Amy, amen! Thank you for blessing me with this today.

  9. This is all kinds of beautiful. I lost both my grandpas in my teens and, even more devastatingly, my FIL when my oldest was barely 6 months old. So, while the couples were still lovingly committed to the end, none of them came anywhere near approaching such an amazing anniversary milestone. I’m counting on my parents to be the ones to endure for 60+ years together!! 🙂

  10. What a lovely post! I hope my husband & I will be able to give my grandchildren that kind of an example. Happy anniversary to them!

  11. Thank you for sharing such a blessing!

  12. You’ve managed to make my expensive anniversary card look really, really cheap. Thank you Amy!! 🙂

  13. THAT is so awesome!!! It is truly a treasure!

  14. My grandparents will be celebrating their 65th wedding anniversary next December. : )

  15. Debbie Jennings says:

    We gave my in-laws a anniversary party for their 50th anniversary. Unfortunately, they didn’t make it to their 65th. My FIL passed away before that could happen. My MIL is still married and we still have a small celebration for their wedding. We have a picture of him and one of my Mom and Grandmother in our living room so that they can share all with us.


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