I’ve heard this one a lot. It goes right along with “You’re so lucky to be at home” and “There’s no way we could afford for me to stay home with my children.”
Why didn’t anyone tell me I’d want to stay home with my baby?
I know that in this day and age, it seems quite impossible for mom to stay home. In fact, many couples never think twice about mom quitting her job, assuming that having a baby will fit seamlessly into their busy work schedules and life will carry on as is.
Until that precious life enters the world and crazy baby love trumps all else.
Truth is, many people are waiting a few years (by choice or not!) before they have children. During that time, they get used to living a two-income lifestyle. They don’t know any different. The house is purchased (with a mortgage), the vehicles are being driven (on a loan), the money is already spent.
You know how I feel about Mom Coming Home, if she wants to. Yes, there are circumstances where it just isn’t possible, but I also know enough people happily making it happen (without a lot of money!) to believe that careful planning and sacrifice can net you full-time baby-time.
Maybe you are of the rare variety who planned for full-time parenting all along. You’ve been smart about your money and lived frugally on one income even when you didn’t have to. Kudos to you!
I began to think of Romans 12:2 “…do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, that you may prove what is that good and acceptable and perfect will of God.” What did that mean? Obviously “conforming to this world” is something to be guarded against and not to be desired. Yet, we looked exactly like “this world” with our big house, double income, and paid childcare.
you might be able to happily abandon that house for a home.
This is where we live now. In this house, we have brought home 3 new babies, fed and lodged drug addicts, convicted felons, one complete stranger who needed food and rest while she was on her way to visit her son in prison, and many friends and relatives. It’s the most beautiful home I have ever known.
Have you made drastic changes in your lifestyle to stay home with your baby(ies)? I’d love to hear your story!
Catch up on the Why Didn’t Anyone Tell Me? series, and let me know a topic you’d like to hear more about!