I’m a firm believer in natural consequences as a learning tool.
You ignore your alarm or my wake up call? Be frantic or late to school. You forget your PE shoes or instrument? Suffer the consequences set by the teacher. Stubborn about tonight’s supper (even though you ate it fine last time)? A growling tummy once every few months never hurt anyone. I usually manage to let it go, even if it means I have to sit on my hands.
Natural consequences are good for me, too. I don’t get my scheduled work time done early in the day? I’m up too late at night. Then I’m tired in the morning. (vicious cycle, there!) If I don’t blog regularly, the traffic goes elsewhere. If I ignore the housework, I’m uber embarrassed when the doorbell rings.
Miss 10 is super proud of her new room in the basement. It’s the first time she’s had her own, and so far she has taken very good care of it, keeping her bed made and her room tidy.
She even has an essential oils station set up. Makes a mama’s heart proud. (And a little brother mad because “She STOLE MY diffuser!”)
Last week my mom and aunt were scheduled to come help me paint and get this house back together after months of upheaval. My aunt hadn’t seen the finished basement yet. I was tidying up before their imminent arrival and discovered that Miss 10, in her rush to get out the door (it was picture day!), forgot to make her bed. First time in weeks, but I knew she’d be embarrassed if grandma and her aunt saw it that way.
So I made it for her.
Natural consequences are a good thing.
Reminding my daughter I’m on her side? Seeing the devastated shock on her face turn to happy relief when I told her what happened? Sharing a “you’re growing up, you’re doing a fantastic job, and I’m growing with you” moment? That’s a Finer Thing.