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If you haven’t seen the look or received the (sometimes) well-intended comments, you will. “You’re so lucky to be at home.” “It must be nice.”
How do you respond?
Me? Sometimes I really want to launch into a litany of all the material things we’ve sacrificed to keep me at home. Let the questioner know how hard it is some days to feel that all I am good for is wiping noses and bottoms. Preach about motherhood being the most important job in all the world and “What’s so important about your job or your lifestyle that keeps you away from home?”
Oh, but I don’t. I know better.
Here’s the thing. I don’t know your story. Or her story. Or the story of the mama with the fashionable clothes and professional manicure who thinks I’m so lucky. I don’t know her struggles, her uncertainties. I don’t know.
And that’s okay.
What do I know? I know that I am blessed to be the wife of the man of my dreams and the mother of three precious children. I know that on paper it looks like we couldn’t make it on one teaching salary, but we thrive. I know that the sacrifice is worth it. I know there is no place I’d rather be and nothing I’d rather do. I know that life is too short to worry about what everyone else says and thinks and feels about what works for our family.
If you constantly seek for this world to value you, you will always be left feeling disappointed and empty. But there is someone who values you as more than just a number. God loves you, and values you… He sees you as His beautiful creation that He wants to cherish and nurture. No matter what you have done, or do now, you have value, and are absolutely the most precious thing God ever made. When you accept this, you become more than a number. You are not longer defined by what you are, but by who you are in the Lord.
Ladies, let’s support and not judge. Encourage, and not tear down. Your profession doesn’t matter; your heart does. Love on your family in the best way you know how, and let’s all call it a day.
*** Is your Mommy, Come Home story ready? I’m wrapping this up soon. Very soon. Be ready to link up with your Stay-at-Home Mommy trials, triumphs, transitions, or questions. Anything goes, as long as it’s positive. There’s a giveaway involved. Be prepared!***