Mommy, Come Home: On Purpose

The rest of the Mommy, Come Home series can be found here.


A few weeks ago I left a comment on AmyLynne’s post about setting up her classroom:

I shouldn’t have clicked over here. 😉 I loved getting my classroom ready every year. Such promise in a bright, clean classroom!

It wasn’t until she replied to my comment that I realized I was fighting the “grass is always greener” mentality:

I like getting it ready too, but I would really love to be able to stay home for the boys.  Enjoy your time with your babies!

I loved my students and enjoyed setting up my classroom, but my family… they are everything to me.  My home?  I should care for it as though it is a palace.

Funny how God works.  Just as I was deep in thought about caring for my home and family and how I could give my home the bright, full-of-promise atmosphere that I used to strive for in each year’s new classroom, I ran across this post in my Google Reader.  I’m grateful that Lylah agreed to share it with you.

…I want to address (again) how vital a woman’s attitude is toward her home and her husband and toward her role.

Unfortunately, so many women have had NOTHING biblical modeled. It was my generation (sorry girls) who left the home in mass. We were a bunch of angry women who left our homes to pursue something we thought would actually be more fulfilling. What we left was a mess. I’ll write more about the mess we left on another day.

A woman’s attitude toward her home front is just about everything. What you think about what your role is and what God says about it matters.

About eighteen years ago, I realized that I’d torn my house down…  I didn’t understand my role. I didn’t understand how to Create Sanctuary or any of the Simple Home Principles. Today I do. I am passionate about them – ask the girls I face-to-face disciple.

God’s grace and truth got a hold of my heart and He directed my steps to be on-purpose to rebuild my home front. I did these three things:

A – I Assessed my home front (marriage, parenting, home keeping skills)
B – I Become Biblical
– I recognized God’s heart for Character over Convenience

I know from the letters that I receive that many of my readers are in the same boat that I was eighteen years ago. Whether or not that’s you, here’s your Lylah Assignment for the Day 🙂

Your Becoming an On-Purpose Home Keeper Assignment (I am a teacher, ya know.) is to journal. Do the best you can. I know you are ALL very, very busy moms. At least read through the questions and hear God’s heart toward you about them.

Assess your home front. Where are you doing well and where do you need to grow in those three main areas?

Journal your answers to these questions:
What is the condition of my home? Is it a mess – clutter every where? Is there peace, unity, harmony?

Are there unresolved conflicts? Am I bitter about unresolved hurts from the past? Do I with hold sex from my husband or use it to manipulate him? Do I have a list of excuses as to why I can’t/don’t want to make love? More on this one later.

Head over to Lylah’s Blog to read the rest of her journaling questions.  I think I might try to answer one or two during my morning quiet time, to help me put purpose to my day.

On purpose. That’s what it’s all about.  No matter your situation, position, job… be on purpose. Play with your children on purpose.  Cook your meals on purpose.  Make your bed on purpose.  Smile at your husband on purpose.  If you are working outside the home, be proud of what you are doing for your family and do it on purpose.  God gave you that job for a reason.

I think if we all just breathe some gratitude into our actions and put some purpose in our days we’ll be more at peace with where God has us, right now.

** One, maybe two more posts in the Mommy, Come Home series and then it’s your turn to tell your stories.  Get them ready!  And… I have an awesome giveaway planned.  Three winners!

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  1. Ah this strikes such a nerve with me, and an area I have really been feeling compelled to examine lately (which is what prompted me to write Beauty and The Homemaker post last week!). Lylah worded what was on my heart, I can’t wait to read more of this article! Thanks you so much for sharing this!

  2. I’m almost speechless. I’ve been examining this VERY thing in my own life for the past few weeks. I’ve felt convicted in a lot of areas–and spoke those very words in my prayer last night. I want to do EVERYthing ON PURPOSE.

  3. Wow. Thank you for sharing this.
    I, too, have been trying to re-evaluate, reorganize and really do things on purpose, not just because someone else thinks I should, or because it is placed in front of me.
    I think it’s time to break out my journal and go through all of those questions, one day at a time. Thank you.

  4. It really is amazing how things happen for a reason. I’ve also been really dealing with trying to reevaluate(analyze)a lot of things in my life and I’m struggling. What an appropriate topic for me too (and all these other ladies it seems) I’m almost afraid to journal. Do I want to write down and actually answer these questions, and be honest with myself?! It’s really something how you post a topic and it speaks to us all directly in different ways. Thanks Amy 🙂

  5. Thank you for sharing! I’m reading through all the links in her post. Encouraging!

  6. What a great post. I could not agree more. In fact, I felt so driven to encourage women that the job we do in our homes is vital that I wrote a book about it. I believe God has given us women the job of tending our homes and nurturing our families, and what a high calling it is. How disappointing that our culture tells us it’s an unimportant task. Our hearts tell us differently. Great job on this post; I’m eager to read more 🙂

  7. I love the idea of living your life on purpose:-)

  8. Great post. 😀

  9. Amy ~ I’m honored.

  10. I so agree that everything we do needs to be on purpose- do ALL things for God’s glory. Great series!!

  11. I found you through TheThrifyMama. She has been such a blessing to me, and now … I can add you to my list of blessings! I SO needed to read this tonight…it is so easy to get off track or loose direction – I love this:
    Play with your children on purpose. Cook your meals on purpose. Make your bed on purpose. Smile at your husband on purpose. If you are working outside the home, be proud of what you are doing for your family and do it on purpose. God gave you that job for a reason.
    Printed it and pasted it on my computer. I NEED to be on purpose. LOVE IT. Bless you, and thanks!!

  12. Great post! I’m struggling with my students this year, but every time one of them shows me how much they’ve already improved I know I am there for a reason. We’re still working toward me being home full time, but until then I need to remember to teach on-purpose everyday. You also reminded me to be the best mom and wife I can be when I am home!

  13. I hope you don’t mind but I wrote a post to get more people over here to read this series. You have done such a great job I wanted to share it with my little group of readers 🙂

  14. This is a wonderful post! Especially relevant as a WAHM, I have to make sure I schedule times when I’m NOT working. There’s always something to do, ya know?

  15. This was good. In a very timely sort of way. I actually had a meltdown today concerning this very thing…my to-do list taking precedence over why I’m doing what I’m doing. Thanks for sharing!

  16. Saw this post after RealLifeSarah tweeted about it. It’s definitely something I needed to read today! Thanks for sharing!


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