When you’re living in survival mode, and heck, let’s face it, When You’re A Mom, it’s tempting to put self-care aside “for the good of the family.” And heck, who has the time, anyway?! Well, Mama, it’s okay to take care of yourself! It’s necessary, and it IS for the good of the family! When I feel human, I can better care for my humans. Imagine that.
Self care doesn’t have to include expensive drinks, weekends away, or even professional manicure services. (If that’s your thing, and you can swing it, by all means!) You can carve time and budget to take good care of yourself right from home.
Get your Move on.
Our bodies are made to move, and no, chasing a naked toddler with a fresh diaper does not count. I feel better, sleep better, and am less twitchy when I get exercise of some sort. Walking fast outside, pushing the stroller, and chatting with my husband kills all sorts of birds with a 30 minute stone, but I also appreciate a good workout video. I’m not ready to invest a lot of money into classes, and not willing to drive 40 miles round trip to the nearest gym, but I can still move. You can, too.
Figure out what works with your budget, and treat yourself to something fun and useful. Last spring I caught on to the ipsy craze, and now I receive a monthly makeup and skin care bag with fun, useful products that break up the monotony of my facial care routine, or lack thereof.
I enjoy wearing makeup. I need to wear makeup to feel more confident, awake, and ready for the day, but I’m slow to experiment and try new colors and products. Ipsy makes it fun for me and has introduced me to some products that I now love! How did I ever live without City Color HD White Powder? Who knew?!
Quote from my 8 year old: “Mom, are you wearing turquoise eyeliner?!” Yep.
Read a good book.
I used to be a voracious reader, burrowing into a good book for hours on end, getting in trouble for leaving my lamp on all night. Before social media, I’d even read for hours while nursing my first few babes. It’s hard for me to get into a book these days what with all the fits and starts and All The Interruptions, so the book has to be excellent and worth the effort.
For the Love! Oh my word, friends, I am enjoying the heck out of this book! The chapters are separate essays, so if I have to put it down, I don’t have to count on Mommy Brain to keep up with all of the details of a heavy, long read. It’s poignant, hilarious, and light, and a book that each and every one of you should go buy right this very minute because you’ll want to read it over and over to be reminded that You are beautiful, talented, and perfectly loved just as you are! (What Mama doesn’t need to hear that?!) For the Love frees you to love yourself and your people with reckless abandon!
The book itself is a treat, but I especially enjoy reading it at the end of a long day in the bath with my favorite Epsom salts and essential oils combinations. Bliss!
Take high quality supplements.
A lot of what’s on the market is junk, much of it expensive junk, so I know this one is kind of a crap shoot. I get it. I’ve tried the whole “if you eat real, nourishing foods and get plenty of sunshine you don’t need vitamins,” and to that I say Pffffffffft. Hogwash. 1) I know that no-grain, fermented veggies, probiotics-loving people exist, just not in my world. and 2) It’s hard work to eat perfectly every day!
I feel okay most days on a “good as I can do with what I’ve got” diet, but I feel unstoppable when I consistently take my NingXia Red and Multigreens, both by Young Living. (Key word: consistently. Not my forte.) I’m sure there are other excellent products out there, so use what works for you! I’m just grateful to have found something that works so well for me that I can see and feel a difference. (PS ~ My husband requests Young Living’s BLM supplement.)
Nourish your relationships.
Several weeks ago my sister and I stole away for the day to go shopping, just the two of us. At the time, she was 3 weeks away from delivering her fourth baby, and I had recently weaned my sixth. While we were eating lunch and not having to clean up any spills or wipe anyone’s face but our own, I tried to remember the last time we spent the day together, just the two of us. Pretty sure it was about 12 years ago. It won’t be 12 years next time. Know better, do better!
She found me this dress, which is the first I have bought in about the same 12 years. Gracious.
And that husband of mine? We are rapidly approaching our 17 year anniversary. By this time many couples have a 15 year old and a 13 year old and are smooth sailing to weekly date nights and weekends away. Yeah, well. We’re plowing through life with half a dozen young ones, ages 12, 10, 8, 5, 3, and 1. Our time will come (in the nursing home, we joke) but right now we mostly connect in stolen moments. But stolen moments with my man? Necessary and good.
Start the day well.
Mama, we are not doing anyone any favors starting our days behind, frantic, and in a mood. Yes, I’m talking to myself. Rolling out of bed is hard, but getting the day started well is worth it! Crystal can motivate us and provide the tools we need to make mornings a catalyst for a great, productive day. Makeover Your Mornings is on sale TODAY (Tuesday, August 25) ONLY for just $10. If you’ve been dragging your feet and wishing at the end of each day that your day was, well, MORE, then buy the course and work through it with me!