Mama, it’s okay to take care of yourself

Take Care of Yourself

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When you’re living in survival mode, and heck, let’s face it, When You’re A Mom, it’s tempting to put self-care aside “for the good of the family.” And heck, who has the time, anyway?! Well, Mama, it’s okay to take care of yourself! It’s necessary, and it IS for the good of the family! When I feel human, I can better care for my humans. Imagine that.

Self care doesn’t have to include expensive drinks, weekends away, or even professional manicure services. (If that’s your thing, and you can swing it, by all means!) You can carve time and budget to take good care of yourself right from home.

Get your Move on.

Our bodies are made to move, and no, chasing a naked toddler with a fresh diaper does not count. I feel better, sleep better, and am less twitchy when I get exercise of some sort. Walking fast outside, pushing the stroller, and chatting with my husband kills all sorts of birds with a 30 minute stone, but I also appreciate a good workout video. I’m not ready to invest a lot of money into classes, and not willing to drive 40 miles round trip to the nearest gym, but I can still move. You can, too.

Treat yourself.


Figure out what works with your budget, and treat yourself to something fun and useful. Last spring I caught on to the ipsy craze, and now I receive a monthly makeup and skin care bag with fun, useful products that break up the monotony of my facial care routine, or lack thereof.

I enjoy wearing makeup. I need to wear makeup to feel more confident, awake, and ready for the day, but I’m slow to experiment and try new colors and products. Ipsy makes it fun for me and has introduced me to some products that I now love! How did I ever live without City Color HD White Powder? Who knew?!

Quote from my 8 year old: “Mom, are you wearing turquoise eyeliner?!” Yep.

Read a good book.

I used to be a voracious reader, burrowing into a good book for hours on end, getting in trouble for leaving my lamp on all night. Before social media, I’d even read for hours while nursing my first few babes. It’s hard for me to get into a book these days what with all the fits and starts and All The Interruptions, so the book has to be excellent and worth the effort.

For the Love

For the Love! Oh my word, friends, I am enjoying the heck out of this book! The chapters are separate essays, so if I have to put it down, I don’t have to count on Mommy Brain to keep up with all of the details of a heavy, long read. It’s poignant, hilarious, and light, and a book that each and every one of you should go buy right this very minute because you’ll want to read it over and over to be reminded that You are beautiful, talented, and perfectly loved just as you are! (What Mama doesn’t need to hear that?!) For the Love frees you to love yourself and your people with reckless abandon!

The book itself is a treat, but I especially enjoy reading it at the end of a long day in the bath with my favorite Epsom salts and essential oils combinations. Bliss!

Take high quality supplements.

A lot of what’s on the market is junk, much of it expensive junk, so I know this one is kind of a crap shoot. I get it. I’ve tried the whole “if you eat real, nourishing foods and get plenty of sunshine you don’t need vitamins,” and to that I say Pffffffffft. Hogwash. 1) I know that no-grain, fermented veggies, probiotics-loving people exist, just not in my world. and 2) It’s hard work to eat perfectly every day!

I feel okay most days on a “good as I can do with what I’ve got” diet, but I feel unstoppable when I consistently take my NingXia Red and Multigreens, both by Young Living. (Key word: consistently. Not my forte.) I’m sure there are other excellent products out there, so use what works for you! I’m just grateful to have found something that works so well for me that I can see and feel a difference. (PS ~ My husband requests Young Living’s BLM supplement.)

Nourish your relationships.

Several weeks ago my sister and I stole away for the day to go shopping, just the two of us. At the time, she was 3 weeks away from delivering her fourth baby, and I had recently weaned my sixth. While we were eating lunch and not having to clean up any spills or wipe anyone’s face but our own, I tried to remember the last time we spent the day together, just the two of us. Pretty sure it was about 12 years ago. It won’t be 12 years next time. Know better, do better!


She found me this dress, which is the first I have bought in about the same 12 years. Gracious.

And that husband of mine? We are rapidly approaching our 17 year anniversary. By this time many couples have a 15 year old and a 13 year old and are smooth sailing to weekly date nights and weekends away. Yeah, well. We’re plowing through life with half a dozen young ones, ages 12, 10, 8, 5, 3, and 1. Our time will come (in the nursing home, we joke) but right now we mostly connect in stolen moments. But stolen moments with my man? Necessary and good.

Start the day well.

Mama, we are not doing anyone any favors starting our days behind, frantic, and in a mood. Yes, I’m talking to myself. Rolling out of bed is hard, but getting the day started well is worth it! Crystal can motivate us and provide the tools we need to make mornings a catalyst for a great, productive day. Makeover Your Mornings is on sale TODAY (Tuesday, August 25) ONLY for just $10. If you’ve been dragging your feet and wishing at the end of each day that your day was, well, MORE, then buy the course and work through it with me!


  1. Love that you are blogging again. Your posts are always so encouraging and real life. Thank you. My husband and I are approaching 18 years of marriage ~ oldest is almost 17. I didn’t believe it when mine were younger, but the older they get the busier it gets ~ all their activities that you want to be there for. We look back fondly on the days of all kids in bed by 8pm and hours to spend just the two of us. We didn’t understand the need for a date night when every night could possibly be date night- after 8pm. Now, the teen is up often later than we are, the younger ones are up early. It feel impossible sometimes to find time together and date nights are hard to schedule with all the kids activities. When we have a free night, we just want to be home. Watching friends sending kids to college and knowing mine will soon follow reminds me to cherish the here and now because they will soon be gone. Maybe date nights and weekends away happen for others with older kids, but we are still connecting in the stolen moments. Thankful for my man who faithfully stays by my side in the chaos. A true blessing. Have a great day and thanks again for sharing your life.

    • Thanks, Lori. It’s good to be back! I remember in my last days of teaching before heading home for the summer, knowing I wouldn’t be coming back, one of my colleagues was telling me that she’s busier now (with a 10 and 12 year old at the time) than she was when they were infants. That she does her laundry at 4am because that’s the only time she’s home. Oy!

      She was right, and I have no intentions of returning to teaching. With my husband coaching high school, and our daughter in junior high sports every Thursday, and our middles busy with rec sports on Saturdays… and that’s just the regular stuff. No extras! It will get REALLY interesting in 2 years when I have one in high school, one in middle school, 3 in grade school, and one still at home. I think that’s what I’m struggling with now. I can totally handle the littles IF I’M AT HOME. And I can totally dig a go go go schedule with the bigs, but doing BOTH AT THE SAME TIME is slightly overwhelming. I’ll have lots of years to practice. 😉

  2. Thank you for letting us know about the sale. I have been “on the fence” about getting it. Not because I didn’t think it would be worth it, but because I doubted my own “follow through”. The sale did it though, I’m in. I am going to have my 16 and 13 year old teen girls do it with me, so that they hopefully can use it now, through college, and into their “grown up” years. Never to late (or early in their case) to learn! My 16 year old struggles with using her time wisely, and I am praying this helps!

  3. Amy, I’m in! I just purchased Make Over Your Mornings and I’m ready to jump in. We just purchased our first home, and I started a new job 6 months ago, and my 8 year old son keeps getting busier and busier. Well, I think I need this!

    I’m so glad you’re back–I really assumed you had moved on, but I’m excited you’re back!

  4. Abigail Gunter says:

    Thanks for sharing! I am always encouraged by your posts! I have 5 crazy munchkins and I would love to work out, but often find myself just getting through each day. Do you have any workout videos that are your favorite?

    • Yes, Abigail! I love Jillian Michael’s 30 Day Shred. It’s a short workout (20 minutes) and I FEEL IT every time. My kids make fun of me because I never do the level 2 or 3 workouts. Level 1 is always enough. 🙂

  5. Great tips! Taking time to read instead of browsing online is a huge recharge that I don’t make myself do often enough 🙂

  6. Taking quality supplements is so important! I take Shaklee vitamins and feel a big difference in my health! All of your suggestions are great! Thanks!


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