Just Say No {A Fresh Start}

A Fresh Start ~  from AmysFinerThings.comOne of the best ways to get something done in the new year or anytime, is to say no.  Sounds contradictory?  It’s not!  There are so very many things, good things, even, that we say yes to throughout our days.  There simply isn’t room for it all.  We cannot do all things well all the time!

It’s hard to say no.  Harder still to say no to good things.  What will people thing?  Oh, but I really like that thing!

Yep.  I get it.

In a Tiny Town it’s kind of expected that everyone participate in all things.  I’m learning (slowly!) that I’m not here to please everyone.  I’m here to care for my family and do what’s best for us.  For now, that means saying no to some volunteer opportunities that take me away from home.  Saying no to the Ladies Club.  Saying no to 4-H.  In another season I may be able to open the door to “yes” but not now.

Recently, I said no to another round of 5:30 a.m. Zumba Toning.  That was a tough one for me, because it was a really good thing!  I liked it socially and physically.  It was good for me!  Alas, the $50/month class was notsogood for our savings goals.  There are some things we really want to do in the house this year.  Something had to give.  And honestly?  The Little Dude still loves being my DVD exercise trainer, even a year later.  ;)

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I’ve said no to more late-night ballgames, because my littles get so tired.  (And?  The germs in the gym… ::shudder::)  I’ve said no to unnecessary trips to town, saving $5 or more in gas money each and every time.

You know as well as I do that saying no doesn’t limit us in a bad way.  Saying no, even to some good things, opens the doors to even better things.  It frees up time, money, and energy for the people, projects, and goals that matter. 

If over-committing is dragging you down in any way, how can you turn “No” in to the one little word that can turn things around in an amazing way?  What do you need to say No to?

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  1. I am slowly learning this too! I said “no” to tennis lessons all fall (I started taking last year and developed a close group of friends through it – we took for 6 months and then played outside all summer). Now I am going to take them with these ladies again starting Thursday – but I told them I could do it for 2 months and that was it. I had to set a limit because the monthly fee is outrageous! I am using Christmas money to cover it though.

    I said no to a bike class at the rec center and opted for work out DVDs at home. I said no to subbing 3 days in a row before Christmas break because there was too much to do around the house. I am getting better. But I am still pulled in too many directions, so there is room for improvement for sure!

    • It IS hard. And I don’t like feeling like I’m “missing out” either. Just have to keep first things first or everything is all out of whack.

  2. Wow- great timing!!!
    My hubby and I just said those words yesterday, when asked if we were attending an event….”something’s gotta give!”
    It IS so hard to say “no” when it’s a “good” thing that you’re declining! But, in the end, all these “good” things are having negative consequences on my family, my health, and my budget:-)
    thanks for a great post!! I’m passing it along! :-)

  3. I love reading this. I have had a hard time saying no to people and things in the past.
    It took me awhile to learn to say no to things, but thankfully I have. I said no when they were looking for PTO president volunteers last year, I knew that there was no way I could take that responsibility on. Maybe when all of my kids are older I can be more active, but for now with four under the age of 7 I can manage to go to meetings and help out here and there.
    I volunteered for CCD one year and loved it, but when they asked me back the next year I had to say no. Giving up Saturday mornings wasn’t good for my family at that time. But it wasn’t no forever. When Madeline starts classes I plan to volunteer then.
    Sometimes saying no is hard, but when it gives me more time for my family I know it is the right thing.

    • “Sometimes saying no is hard, but when it gives me more time for my family I know it is the right thing.” That right there sums it all up!

  4. This is SUCH an important reminder. Equally important for me is learning to say “YES” to things that will add value to my life and enrich it. It’s too easy for me to put myself last and just figure I don’t really *need* such-and-such group or activity, when, in reality, it makes my life better. Does that even make sense?? :)

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