I’m having so much fun plotting and planning Large Family Life posts based on your questions and suggestions. I’m also giggling a little because um, you’re going to be quite disappointed in some of my answers, I’m afraid.
Question: “How do you eat a hot meal with the family when you have a baby?”
Answer: “I don’t.”
Encouraging and helpful, I know.
As our family has grown, we’ve really tried to focus on giving our older children the time and attention they need and deserve. It’s crazy how all of the little people can suck the life right out of a person with their constant physical needs, leaving little left for anyone or anything else. With some sacrifice and intentionality, though, everyone can get their time. And time is what my big kids need.
I want to write more about the ins and outs of how and why we do this on a regular basis, but for today let’s go on a little trip.
She had just turned 11 years old when I told her to pack her bags after breakfast. I’d been plotting and planning for months and finally found a free 30 hours. A few days earlier I loaded The Body Book (The Lily Series) to both her ipod and my kindle. I told her to read it, that I would read it, too, and then we’d discuss some of the questions she’s had lately and some that she didn’t even know to ask.
What I didn’t tell her was that we’d be “discussing the book” on a Overnight Girls ONLY trip. Just her and me. Eating out. Shopping. Hotel. Ice cream. Big Girl chats.
It was time. My big girl is growing up, changes have started, and more changes are sure to come in rapid fire succession. Also? With greater privileges and independence (which she receives) come many responsibilities, which she has taken on beautifully. I knew that with the baby coming I would be relying on her help, and I longed for a special time with Just Us when we could talk girl stuff and shop for girl stuff and enjoy each other.
It was awesome. (No, we did not buy the shoes. )
Yes, the puberty topics were important, as was the shopping for girl stuff.
But the time alone? That was priceless.
After hearing the details of our trip the next day, I know my husband is already looking forward to taking our son in a couple of years. I’ve got him beat, though, because over time I’ll get four special overnighters with four girls!
One on one time doesn’t come easily in our big, bustling family, but making special moments happen is worth it!