***Over the next five weeks leading to Father’s Day, I’m teaming up with a fabulous group of bloggers as we Honor the Man They Call Daddy. Join us!***
In no particular order:
- Time — Time with you, time with the kids.
- Food you make me
- Video games
- Back rubs
- Tickets to sporting events
- Date night
- Ice cream
I just (as in 2 minutes ago) interviewed my husband, asking him, “If you could have any gift valued under $300 for any occasion, what would you choose?” That list up there? Those are the things my man wants. Most noted? Many are not things at all.
I don’t know why it had never occurred to me before to ask him, “What do you want?” Maybe I thought I knew all the answers (I actually did know many of them – yay!), or perhaps I was slightly afraid of what he might say. What if what he wants will take a little more time and effort from me?
I want to honor my husband, the man I love most in this world. I want to respect him, the father of my children. What gets in my way sometimes is the grind. The crazy, beautiful, loud, stressful, perfect rhythm that is our life often leaves me putting one foot in front of the other, succumbing to the necessary and the practical.
Extravagant, creative gifts to say I love and respect you? That’s not really me (or our budget)!
That’s okay, though, because what refreshes my husband most isn’t extravagance. He wants a bowl of his favorite ice cream at the end of a long day, sitting in his favorite recliner, watching a favorite comedy with his favorite girl. (Hey, that’s me!)
He wants to know that when we’re having a conversation, I’m focused on what he’s saying, and not trying to multi-task.
He wants the work of the week to be done, or mostly done, or at least good enough (We do a lot of good enough around here!) so that we can enjoy a fun family activity a couple times per week.
He doesn’t ask for much; he asks for me.
As we approach Father’s Day this year, I’m going to make a concerted effort to make the day about my husband and what he wants (Novel idea, right?) rather than what I think he needs or what would be easy for me to give. That, I believe, would be the best way to show him the love and respect he so very much deserves.
What do you think would be on your husband’s Top 10 gift list? Don’t be afraid to ask him!
Peruse more Gifts for Dad posts from my fellow bloggers:
- Jessica from Good Cheap Eats
- Jessie Leigh from Parenting Miracles
- Mandi from Motherhood Your Way
- Tara from Feels Like Home