Encouragement for New Moms

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I’m thrilled to have my friend Jen guest post for me today.  If anyone has authority on this topic, it has to be a mom to 4 boys.  Four boys born at the same time. Quadruplets!

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As a mama to quadruplets, I was the beneficiary of much encouragement my first few months as a new mom. Thankfully, it taught me ways that I can continue to bless other new mothers in the years to come. Thank you, Amy, for allowing me to share these today while you soak up some time with your new little bundle!

Here Are 10 Simple Ways You Can Encourage a New Mom in Your Life:

1. Bring A Meal. 3104853908_c8dc04da1e

It almost goes without saying, but it truly blesses a new mother to know her dinner is planned and provided. Simple is sufficient. You don’t cook? That’s okay too! Some of my favorite dropped off meals included pizza delivery, a deli meat tray, or a frozen homemade dinner to save for when I needed it.

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2. Pray.

The first months of adjusting to motherhood (even for the 2nd, 3rd, or more) time presents itself with a handful of challenges. Schedules are interrupted, sleep is lacking, hormones are whacked, and family relationships are tested. If you do nothing else, just pray!

3. Send Her Out on a Date. 2747039594_38824b9127

Granted, it may not happen in the first few weeks, but offer your babysitting services for the couple to get some much needed time away, even if it’s just for an hour. My husband and I wouldn’t have survived the first year without some breaks now and then. It was such a refresher to reconnect and get some fresh air.

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4. Give a Personal Gift.

Sure, those tiny baby onesies are impossible to pass up, but leave room in your budget for a little pampering gift for the new mama too. Again, it doesn’t have to be anything spectacular or expensive, just a little gift to show that she’s loved. Need ideas? A Starbucks gift card, nail polish, a chick flick, or pajama pants are sure to please!

5. Set Up a Time to Visit. 3693002834_a34301392c(2)

Sometimes being a new mom is lonely, especially after the newness begins to wear off. Having a friend over for a short visit was a wonderful way for me to personally feel more connected. I loved when a friend from church would drop by and catch me up on things I had been missing, or when a seasoned mom gently gave advise that worked for her newborn. Bonus points for doing a load of laundry while you chat, or washing bottles before you leave.

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6. Offer to Do the Dirty Work.

An acquaintance will offer to hold the baby for the mother, but a real friend will clean her fridge. Load up your cleaning caddy, put on some gloves, and bless this mother by an hour or two of cleaning. Better yet? Load some friends in the car too and enjoy some time serving a friend together. After all, many hands make light work.

7. Be A Runner.6548560_0ba11b9414

You’re off to the grocery? How about making a call first and seeing if there’s anything your friend needs dropped off on the way home or any other errands she needs to run. Library? Post Office? Taking a child to soccer practice? Or you can be a “Diaper Fairy” and leave a package of diapers on their front porch on your way home.

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8. Offer To Man the Night Shift.

What to take your friendship to BFF status? THIS is the ticket! Obviously if the mom has chosen to exclusively breastfeed, you might not be too much help, but if the baby can be bottle fed, allowing the mom some much needed rest could be a true gift of love. I will never forget a family who volunteered their Friday nights for several weeks in a row, so that we could get a full 7 hours of precious sleep. Absolutely priceless!

9. Put Together a Box of Sunshine. 4307263495_9568f5254b

Write personal notes of encouragement or Scripture verses on 3 x 5 cards and put in a decorative box. The new mom can reflect on these words and it will minister to her soul. This is a great group project idea you could do as a play group, Bible study, or with co-workers.

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10. Insert Your Advice Here.

What’s your favorite way to encourage a new mom? What are some ways that someone has supported you? I look forward to reading your insights.

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Comments

  1. Wow. You have got some good friends, Jen!

    I just can’t offer any other advice after that! 🙂

  2. ps…I’m linking this up to Top Ten Tuesday tomorrow if you don’t! 🙂

  3. I love all these ideas. One of my favorite things after we had our third child (3 yrs ago – our #4 is 2 weeks old now!) was groceries. Someone brought us enough to stock our fridge & pantry for 2 weeks plus the essentials like toilet paper & diapers. Wonderful! 😉

  4. Thanks again, Amy for allowing me the opportunity to post. Some of these I was blessed with, some of them I’ve been able to bless others with, and some are on my list of ways that I want to implement in becoming more of a servant friend!

  5. In my church, we always sign up for meals for the first week or two for a new mommie. Oh, how I loved my home-cooked meals made by someone else (and no dirty dishes). My friend told me her mom would bring her the newborn baby in the middle of the night for nursing and then rock the baby back to sleep for her after. THAT is love.

  6. Love this advice! There’s not too much to add, but I did love receiving several freezer meals from friends and I’ve enjoyed returning the favor to other new moms. Also, when the “new” mom is actually a veteran mom having her fourth or fifth baby, a day at the park with the older children can give mom the gift of a nap or quiet time with the new baby.

    Watch your words to new moms. Repeatedly telling the new mom what a great job she is doing and what a good mother she is goes a long way in building her mommy self-confidence, especially when others’ well-intentioned advice is making her doubt her abilities.

  7. Great advice!

  8. Great ideas! I also like to look for Biblically sound DEVOTIONAL Books to give as gifts… (Like:A Place of Quiet Rest: Finding Intimacy with God Through a Daily Devotional Life by:Nancy Leigh DeMoss. Or one of Kay Arthur’s book: Search My Heart, O God: 365 Appointments with God ; Powerful Moments with God: A Devotional Journey) Devotional books are nice 1 or 2 page readings full of encouragment and can easily be read while rocking a newborn or nursing…. ALSO — another nice gift is the gift of a CD with soothing praise & worship music…. When life seems crazy — turning our eyes back on Jesus and all He is can refresh our perspective!!

  9. I couldn’t have said it better myself! When I had my baby, a friend stopped by and cleaned our trailer for me. She was newly married and it was such a blessing to see such selflessness on her part. With a new baby, the housework got forgotten but I felt so much better (and refreshed) when it was clean in my house once again.

  10. #7 is my favorite. WHen I had my 2nd, and was overwhelmed with two under two, a dear friend would call me every single time she headed to the store to see if I needed any groceries. It still makes me tear up to think about the huge relief I felt when I realized I didn’t have to dress myself and two little ones to get out of the house to buy desperately needed milk and eggs.

  11. Love all your tips. I am part of a group at church that delivers meals and many are for families with new babies. I know being that I was delivered meals after having my son, it’s a huge blessing!

  12. Have a nice surprise waiting for when she gets home from the hospital, my mum called by with my sister to put banners up and my sister left a cake with an icing message welcoming my little boy to the world. :). My mum also took some time off work and would come down to help with cooking and cleaning as I was taking a long time healing from my episiotomy (5 weeks…I may as well have had a C section!) My sister would also ring to see if I needed any groceries before she went shopping. A few friends brought me pampering items aswell as gifts for Noah. Really made me feel special 🙂

  13. These are absolutely wonderful ideas! It’s difficult adjusting to being a new mom. Now here are some concrete ways to help!

  14. Bringing a meal is wonderful, but a good friend came over and cooked a meal in my kitchen. The house smelled like home and “normalcy”, we had time to chat, and she did the dishes and swept while the soup simmered. Just watching her take over my kitchen gave me a sense of calmness and helped me to relax.

  15. These are great suggestions! I think #1 is always a winner. 🙂

    RE: #6. I never feel comfortable having friends & extended family clean my house. But I WOULD feel comfortable with a gift certificate to a maid service company. 🙂

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