Don’t Forget to Date Your Husband

I already told you earlier this week that spending time together is what matters most to my husband.  We don’t need to go out, it doesn’t need to be fancy, and really… it doesn’t even have to be a dateFrugal date nights at home suit us just fine in this season.  (Can I tell you, though, that I’m excited for the day that we can take ballroom dancing lessons?  Yes, really!)

While going out on the town really isn’t necessary, and honestly isn’t even what we’d choose if we could, it is honoring to my husband and my marriage to carve out quality time.  Just us.

I think Tara agrees.  Read Why I Need to Date My Husband at Feels Like Home.

We are married; we live together. We are moving in the same direction with the same goals. We care for the same people in the same space. We eat and sleep together and use the same bathroom.

We do almost everything side by side, but we need to spend some time gazing into each other’s eyes.

It is much too easy to get into “roommate” mode your spouse if you don’t care for your marriage.

Mandi goes beyond “date night” to share six ideas for being intentional and prioritizing your relationship every day!  Read her thoughts at Motherhood Your Way.  Here’s one:

You and your husband probably flirted regularly when you were dating, but oftentimes we get too busy and distracted by obligations, frustrations and busyness and forget to flirt with one another once we’re married. The problem is that it can become a cycle where the less we flirt, the more frustrated and irritable we get with one another, and so we flirt even less. Teasing, flirting and innuendo are all really good things in a marriage, and they help keep the spark alive on a daily basis!

Want to skip the hassle of setting up a date?  The cost, the sitter arrangements, the schedule… sometimes it’s more work than it’s worth!  JessieLeigh has it covered at Parenting Miracles with Have a Rockin’ At-Home Date.

Know this: you do not need to scrub your home from top to bottom.  Just neaten it up.  Light a candle or two.  Wear something pretty.  Turn on some music.  Put clean sheets on the bed.  (Yep, I said it.)  Pour a glass of wine if that’s something you both enjoy.  Make it special.  The smell of Pine-Sol isn’t as likely to delight your man as the smell of YOU… and maybe some bacon-wrapped scallops. ;)

Jessica knows the way to her man’s heart.  She must know my hubby, too, because he sure would like the Ice-Blended Mocha she’s serving up.  Oh, and of course there’s this:  Unplug.

Unplug yourself from other distractions. Make a mental note not to turn on the TV, answer the phone, check your messages, or pop into your inbox. It may take some getting used to, but a life without electronics can be absolute bliss, especially when you’re with your honey.

Go out.  Stay in.  Eat good food.  Don’t eat at all.  All of that?  Doesn’t really matter! What matters is honoring your husband’s desire to be with you!


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  1. Love it! A favorite question pf mine comes from Carolyn Mahaney’s Feminine Appeal, “When is the last tine your heart really SQUEEZED for your mate?” Dates are so important to keep that spark strong.

  2. Went on a date with my hubby tonight-to the local jail! Our church has a ministry there and it was our turn to minister to the ladies there. I got to sing with him & listen to him teach through Mark chapter six on the importance of remembering the blessings of God when it seems like He’s not there. Then we stopped at the gas station for 69 cent slushes on the way back to church to pick up the kiddos. We joke about our chaperoned dates, but it is nice to have some non-kid time together!

  3. Awesome. My husband and I have started weekly date nights, and it has been so good for us. After 26 years of marriage, we needed a little jump-start, and dating again has been just right for us. Last night we went furniture shopping and then to our favorite restaurant to share a burger. Nothing too exciting or expensive, but we had a great time just dreaming, talking, and spending time together.

    • I think the word “date” is sometimes what gives people trouble. There are no rules… just quality time together.

  4. LOVE this! My whole blog is mostly about marriage…SO important.

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