Naw. It’s nothing like that, really. My husband does have a favorite chair, but what makes our home inviting to him has little to do with the arrangement of our furniture and much more to do with the heart.
To honor the man they call daddy at our house, very little is needed to set the stage.
1. Slap on a smile.
It’s no fun for my husband to walk through the door after a long day, greeted by my “get these kids outta here” growl as I fly around the messy kitchen in a desperate attempt to throw supper on the table. Truthfully, the man would prefer to eat cereal for supper five nights a week if that’s what it took to see a smile on my face when he walks in the door.
Our surroundings are not just physical. What makes the home is the heart. In our home I have the power to set the tone when daddy walks in the door as I choose my own attitude and do my best to control the circumstances.
- Regular menu planning keeps the last-minute “what’s for dinner” stress at a minimum.
- Prepping supper early in the day when possible frees me up to deal calmly with whatever comes up in those crazy hours before daddy comes home.
- Putting forth a small effort to make myself presentable makes me feel more like smiling when he walks through the door. I know I sure wouldn’t want to come home to me on the grungy days.
2. Pleasantly playing children.
Well now, wouldn’t that be a lovely scene at the witching hour when everyone is getting tired, hungry, and cranky all at the same time?! There are no guarantees when it comes to children’s behavior, but I have found a few tricks to keep them from losing it when daddy walks through the door.
- Let there be snacks! We have an open drawer policy on fruits and veggies in the afternoon. Yes, I like to cap it off to ensure they’ll eat a good supper, but really, if we stick to produce I can just say that they ate part of their supper a little early.
- Chores first. Our family functions better if the drudgery gets out of the way first. It’s no fun for my husband to walk in and have to be the bad guy all evening, seeing to it that homework is done and bedrooms are clean. If I take care of that earlier, then there’s no chance of the kids whining about it when he gets home.
3. Clear a path.
Dust and smudgy windows don’t phase my man. He only occasionally pokes fun of my clutter boxes in inappropriate locations, such as our bedroom. He doesn’t even mind if the dishes haven’t been done. Leave a toy or other such obstacle on the floor for him to trip over, though, and we’ve got ourselves a problem.
4. Respect his things.
The things I value aren’t always the things he values, and that’s okay. While we consider most of the stuff in our house our stuff, I still am very careful not to do away with his things during a fit of decluttering. Those are his decisions.
For 11 years and 3 moves, I hung on to the immersion blender he owned before we were married, even though I had no idea what it was or how I would use it. To me, it was just another thing crowding my kitchen drawers. Until I used it one day, just for kicks. Guess what is now one of the most used small appliances in our kitchen? Uh-huh.
Setting the stage for a welcoming home means different things for different families. How do you welcome your husband home at the end of the day?