More great info from my friend, JessieLeigh, because… she is a mama who knows her stuff!
Having two babies within one year doesn’t mean you’ll need two of everything that true twin parents need. Your older baby will have outgrown the bouncy seat, for example, by the time number two arrives. Still, you’ll be needing some things that parents of more widely spaced siblings do not. Here are ten of them:
- Two cribs– Even figuring the new baby will be in a cradle, bassinet, or your bed for a few months, your older baby will probably still be too little to move into a bed- and there’s no reason to rush it. Try to borrow a second crib if possible so both your little ones can be safe and comfy!
- Two rear-facing car seats– Your older baby will likely have outgrown the infant seat, so your newborn can move into that. Pick up a convertible car seat that can be rear-facing for as long as the older baby can fit comfortably, then turned forward facing. This is the safest way to go!
- Many, many diapers– There’s not much getting around it- you WILL have two in diapers. May as well stock up! If in doubt, I buy a ton of size 3 diapers. Maybe it’s just my babies, but they seem to be in that 16-28 pound range for a very long time.
- Lots of bottles or the energy to manage tandem nursing or a combination thereof– For at least a little while there, you may very well have two babies drinking from bottles or nursing. If both your little ones are going to be on bottles, be sure to buy some new nipples for the newborn- older ones get “stretched” over time and the flow may be too fast for a new baby. If you plan on tandem nursing, be especially conscientious about getting enough calories and fluids for YOU!
- A decent sized diaper bag– Even though you’re not as likely to haul around everything but the kitchen sink once you get past your first baby, you’ll still need some room even for just the essentials when there are two babies. I survived with just the plain black hospital issue diaper bag. It doesn’t have to be fancy- just don’t think you’re going to be carrying some cute little purse in lieu of a diaper bag anytime soon… 😉
- A highchair AND a booster seat (or two highchairs)– When the time comes for your new baby to try some solid foods, your older one will still need a lift to be able to reach the table. Two highchairs are fine if you have them, but a simple booster will do fine for the older child.
- A double stroller– You might not “need” this, but I think you’ll find life much better with it! Your “not-quite-one-year-old” may very well not be walking yet and, even if she happens to be, you’ll likely still want to put her in a stroller in some situations. I will go on record and say that I despise seeing preschoolers and beyond corralled in strollers- it’s just not how I like to operate. But two under one? Strap ’em in!
- A sling or wrap– I mentioned it before- this is a good season in which to embrace baby-wearing. I never felt the need to wear my first baby. It seemed I could always manage to hold him when needed. Once I had two babies? It was such a blessing to be able to wear the newborn snuggled close to me and still have my hands free!
- An easy distraction– I don’t want to appear a slacker, but I highly recommend you find something that can hold your older baby’s attention for a few minutes with limited effort on your part. Whether it’s a Baby Einstein DVD (NOT going to make your baby smarter, but also unlikely to cause real damage) or a noisy, flashy toy… let go of your high standards for a few minutes a day when you need to. There will be times when your newborn needs you and the older child is not napping, eating, or otherwise engaged. Having a quick “trick” in your back pocket can help save your day. Just don’t rely on it too much.
- A sense of humor– You’re going to get a lot of unsolicited comments… things like “You DO know how this happens, right?” and “Is that even POSSIBLE?” You will also sometimes find yourself with two screaming babies on your hands and no way to remedy everything at once. Your house will likely suffer for awhile. Take a deep breath. Soak in all that wonderful baby essence. Laugh. These days will go by all too fast… Trust me. Pretty soon you’ll be chasing toddlers. Two of them. Don’t worry- I’ll be praying for you. 🙂
Anything missing from this list? Those of you with 2 children born in the same year, what would you add?